Maybe I missed it, but what variety is it? Some are very whippy like that. An example is Cortland. They are tip bearing and branches and tops tend to bend over, but in your case the answer to your problem looks to me to show in the 3rd picture. There you can clearly see 8-9 scaffold branches going out from the leader. That will easily take energy from the leader. You only want 3-5 in one scaffold. Sometimes you may see one branch get real aggressive, and will take to much energy from the leader too.
Stake it for now, and next late winter, early spring take out 3-4 of those branches. They may sucker some next year, so take them out as they appear.
Right now you can go up to the top and weak leader prune that top so you do not have the same problem. There are 2-3 weak leaders going up with the main leader. Take them out now. Leave one strong leader. And yes, looks like you could slow up on the nitrogen. Good luck!