Battle with the wife for moving to a rual area

[Jim Timber]

You might find you end up with a woman who's content to let you go do your thing every fall knowing it makes you happy (whitetail widow), keeps the house kept while you're gone, and loves cats just as much as you do (we now have 3 :) ).

I grew up watching my parents be unhappy with who the other one was. They got married straight out of college without really knowing who they were as people yet. They were miserable, and so were me and my sister. My sister is now on hubby #4 seeking someone who'll worship her like my dad expected of my mom, and I'm currently in my 8th year of engagement to the only woman I'd ever considered marrying (we just haven't gotten around to making it official - no rush). I support her interests and she supports mine - it's a partnership; we're a team.

Prior to meeting the Mrs. my longest relationship was 7 months. NEXT! :eek: :D

 

[sandbur]

My wife is not a whitetail widow as she is usually hunting and shooting bigger deer than me.

 

[Jim Timber]

I can't seem to get mine out in the stand yet. She's never killed anything but fish. It's not a issue I bring up much. When she's ready to hunt, she knows where to go.

 

[Jim Timber]

Yeah, I wanted her to try it more in the earlier years to fill the freezer, but with our low deer numbers I don't mind that she's not filling tags.

 

[McLovin]

No offense Stu, but women under 45 are a completely different species than what you're accustomed to. They've been raised with a completely different set of values, and are the most entitled, narcissistic creatures you can imagine. I honestly believe it wouldn't have mattered which one I picked, it would gave ended the same way.

 

[SD51555]

No offense Stu, but women under 45 are a completely different species than what you're accustomed to. They've been raised with a completely different set of values, and are the most entitled, narcissistic creatures you can imagine. I honestly believe it wouldn't have mattered which one I picked, it would gave ended the same way.

Bingo. It's hard to find the old values in today's generation. I'm not opposed to marriage, I just haven't found an available one that hasn't absolutely terrified me with the things they say and believe.

My last relationship crashed hard when I was told after 5 months that I had to "take care of" her, and buy a house so she could quit her job and move in with me.

 

[SD51555]

On saving money...

Her: Why are you so focused on investing? What if you die tomorrow?
Me: What if I don't?

 

[sandbur]

Methinks you guys are choosing poorly...find a gal who knows what real hard work is...and who started doing so when she was in her teens (or well before if she was raised on a farm). My current wife would work a number of men under the table. Born and raised on a row crop/beef farm, had 3 sisters...0 brothers. She grew up knowing how to work. My late wife wasn't born and raised working physically, but she knew what work was, was driven to work, and was one of only a few people to do the job she did (none of the others were men either BTW).

Gotta work on that "screening" process fellas

You are on to something, Stu. My wife was the oldest in the family and she had to milk cows and do the chores when Dad was working on the hay. Picking rock is another thing she mentions.

 

[MoLandOwner]

You guys just got to find the right woman. I was in and out of jail the first 3 times before mine was growing pubic hair. Get em young and train them in boys!;)

We both agreed our union was till death do us part....I still have not figured out when she is going to kill me..........:eek:

 

[MoLandOwner]

You are on to something, Stu. My wife was the oldest in the family and she had to milk cows and do the chores when Dad was working on the hay. Picking rock is another thing she mentions.

She sounds like a keeper Art!:)

 

[shawnv]

I'm very lucky to have a great wife and kids, live close to the city yet reside in the country where there is more noise from wildlife than there are from cars. Living here isn't cheap so I'm grateful for each day I get here. There is a saying that home is where the heart is so follow that. One thing maybe you concede and stay in the city but take more extended weekends at a place in the woods.

 

[Natty Bumppo]

Methinks you guys are choosing poorly...find a gal who knows what real hard work is...and who started doing so when she was in her teens (or well before if she was raised on a farm). My current wife would work a number of men under the table. Born and raised on a row crop/beef farm, had 3 sisters...0 brothers. She grew up knowing how to work. My late wife wasn't born and raised working physically, but she knew what work was, was driven to work, and was one of only a few people to do the job she did (none of the others were men either BTW).

Gotta work on that "screening" process fellas

Bingo.

 

[sandbur]

How old are you now? I used to think I wanted to retire to Vilas County....had that dream for a number of years. After maybe 10-12 years of visiting the area in summer, fall, winter, and one spring...I realized that I no longer had that dream. I still love to visit the area, but wouldn't choose to live there now.

The point is...dreams may change as you age.

"Rural" means different things to different people too. To somebody living on a 5,000 acre ranch in west TX...where I live sure wouldn't be "rural". To somebody living in SE WI or the Twin Cities....it sure would be. Maybe find a place "rural" enough for you, but not too "rural" for her

My feelings on the lake country of Mn. are about the same. My dream ahs changed and might change again???

 

[sandbur]

She sounds like a keeper Art!:)

Yup!

 

[sandbur]

You guys just got to find the right woman. I was in and out of jail the first 3 times before mine was growing pubic hair. Get em young and train them in boys!;)

We both agreed our union was till death do us part....I still have not figured out when she is going to kill me..........:eek:

John- you make me laugh!

 

[Jordan Selsor]

This thread proves that theory about "opinions" for sure! An it has reinforced the fact that I got a damn good woman. Several of you have clearly picked the wrong ones! Start woman shopping at the hospitals. Nurses know what hard work is an ain't scared to get their hands dirty! My wife's so tight she squeaks when she walks! Financially that is! Get your head out of the gutter! It's all give an take though mine can't cook worth a crap! She would move to north mo an start learning how to farm from the mobuckchaser tomorrow but I can't walk away from the career I have established here. Stl county is in the top 10% of highest paid emergency responce services. Up north is primarily volunteer fire! That ain't gonna work! So we plan to move just on the outside of suburbia an get away to the farm any chance we can

 

[foggy]

You guys may as well give up looking for the best woman out there. I married her many years ago. ;)

Wy wife grew up on a dairy farm. Walked beans with a hoe until she fell over from the heat.....then would lay in the "bean row shade" to recover, until her parents would get her up on the next round. Those farm girls are tough......mine can out-work me all day long. (I'm into short-cuts, machines, and easy methods. :D)

Edit: Mine was/ is a Registered Nurse, can sew anything, cooks, paints, cleans, and helps me put in the dock. Cute and 120 lbs soaking wet. What a girl!

 

[j-bird]

Can you find a location that you will both be happy? My wife is a "city girl" - but not big city, just the type that like to live in a town where you have pizza delivery! Luckily for me where we live now isn't in town, but town is only 15 minutes away (2 different towns actually). So she has her Wal-mart and Starbucks and the like, while I have my country living.

I will also tell you to pick your battles - some things are worth fighting for others not so much. An old saying comes to mind here, "War does NOT determine who is right or wrong. War determines who is LEFT"

Good luck.

 

[West Branch]

To the OP:
The small dairy farm where I grew up and where our cabin is at, is 12 miles to the closest gas station and 20 miles to a small local grocery store and 40 miles to a bigger chain discount type grocery store. My mom moved there from downtown Minneapolis when my parents got married and it was big lifestyle adjustment for her but it seems to have turned out well. My wife and I have talked about moving up north and will continue to look at different options over the years since we have quite a while to plan. Just keep talking about it and get her up there for some mini-vacations to figure out what she likes. And to make sure that you want to do it as well.


To some of the other comments:
I must have been lucky finding my wife and we are 26-27 years old. She grew up on a farm in Iowa and was a D2 college athlete with a full ride. Life seems to have been good to us so far due to some planning and being able to take advantage of beneficial situations due to our planning. Ni ether of us wanted to live in the cities and we are now in a town of 15k people with <3 minute commutes to our jobs. Life is good. It's just over 3 hours to our cabin and also 3 hours to my in-laws, and I get along great with my in-laws as well :D. Probably won't be moving up north any time soon but she wants to go up there just as much as I do, so it works well that we are on the same page.

IME based on acquaintances (I won't call the people friends) who complain about their spouses related to money and life goals are just as much of the problem as the wife is. One example husbands that say there wife likes to spend money while they are the saver. The thing is the wife is spending money on things like groceries and household items while the husband is savings for a boat, motorcycle, hunting trips, etc. And then he complains about how he wants hunting land, a house, and this and that and can't understand why he doesn't have the money for it. And then blames his wife spending money on clothes that costed a helluva lot less than he spends.

My sister is single and looking and is 24 year old CPA working in downtown Minneapolis. She graduated college in 4.5 years with a double major and funded it herself and plans to have student loans paid off in <3 years. She seems to have trouble finding a younger man that has similar goals. Look around at your younger male coworkers and their habits, they are just as much part of the problem as some younger women are.

 

[dipper]

Screw the nurse marry the doctor, btw-mine will tear shingles off and help reroof a house. I just awarded her with 3 months with a personal trainer. It ran me $2k, plus
she got a good sun tan and my own personal training program as a bonus. I saved $8k on the roof.