Jim Timber
5 year old buck +
I've been dealing with un-managed major depression for the past 18 years. I did "try" to get help for it back in 2012 after my physical issues kicked into hyperdrive, but the meds they put me on gave me the dreaded flattened effect and I felt like a zombie from the moment I woke to when I decided the day was over. Nothing was fun, nothing was sad, nothing was nothing and everything was nothing: I was a shell and didn't care about a damn thing. So I tossed that bottle of pills and lied and said I was fine and it was probably situational and would improve when my life improved. Funny part about that; my life never did improve after 2012. Lost my job, hands won't work right more than a few hours a day, can't find a job I'm able to do, can't bring myself to giving up on the dream of living up North so the bills and expenses just keep on coming but the money never did. It's been a damn rough ride for the past 7 years!
Well, the timber sale that was going to finally provide some relief wasn't happening, I'd washed out of yet another job that I only made it 4 days at, and my body was shutting down. Anthony Bourdain wasn't able to beat his demons and last Spring I'd almost gotten whooped too. Brooks owed me some money that I was in dire need of to pay bills and I shut his posting off to force his hand to finally write the check. Sure, it wasn't the best use of my position as admin, but it was the only card I had to play and a slap in the face of him spending hours posting on "my" site and not taking care of fulfilling our agreement. When he did finally pay, I was left with a moral dilemma: do I suffer the wrath of betraying my position, or just pull the plug and walk away. No one stepped up to take over, so I hit "delete". As we all know, Lee started another site about a week later and I vanished off the face of the map for the most part.
This past year was pretty rough. I had no appetite, no motivation to do anything really. I was getting dressed just because I didn't want my step-son to come home and see his father-figure (his bio-dad died of cancer when he was 4) mostly naked late-afternoon, but it wasn't because I was "up and ready to face the world". Shit, I rarely left the couch.
After a medical exam for increasing my disability rating, the examiner realized I was barely holding together and said something that finally pushed me to seek help. I started counseling, some anti-depressant meds, and did a lot of soul searching to try to find peace within myself. By late July, I was in group therapy once a week, individual counseling weekly outside of group, and was dealing with some of my physical pain issues more intensively - my life was doctor's appointments.
The Mrs. and kiddo were out of town, I was tired of waking up to go to the doc's and coming home to wait out the rest of the day to repeat the process in the morning, and decided I was going to stop at the Humane Society on my way home instead. My day was already shit, so maybe I could make some animals day's better and it might cheer me up in the process. I'd found myself playing with everyone's service dogs at the VA (not always a good thing) and really wanted one of my own but The Mrs. had shot me down a couple years prior as she thought a dog would just mean more work for her. I went to the Coon Rapids location, played with some cats (we already had 3), and then took a pit mix out to their little pen and played with him for about 30 minutes. That was fun, but Kobe wasn't a good fit for me and I went home. The next day, after being on the East side of town for group, I decided I'd never been to the Woodbury location and went there to do the same thing. I played with the cats, then went to the kennels to see who was hanging out. First kennel had a Blackmouth Cur puppy who immediately started barking it's fool head off as soon as I opened the main door into the room. OH Hell NO! I'm too old for that nonsense! Then there were a couple Springers, and we had a Springer growing up. Toffee was a good dog, but we never hunted her since my dad was from Chicago and has never been hunting in his life (I had to seek out and learn all my redneck ways on my own), and I didn't want another one. Nothing against them, but I figured a hound breed would be more my style (and I was right!). The last stall on the first block of kennels had Vinnie in it. He was chilling and happy to see me, would take treats from my hand without nipping fingers, and had an obvious eye injury to his right eye but there were some other medical condition stickers on his chart I didn't recognize. So I asked a girl who was filling food bowls what they meant and she didn't know either, and went off to find someone who did. While I was waiting for her return, I'd started looking up Blackmouth Cur's (BMC) on my phone and then another lady showed up with a clipboard and a leash. Vinnie was obviously happy to see her, and it turned out this was his bathroom break time. I asked if she was going to walk Vinnie, and she said yes. Then I asked if I could walk him instead? "Are you interested in Vinnie?" I don't know, but I'd like to walk him if that's ok? "He's got exercise restrictions from his heartworm treatment, so you can't run him or anything." That's ok, my knees are shot - neither one of us is running today! "Meet me over by the door and I'll let you take him from there."
Little did I know, that was God's plan for suckering me into phase 2 of recovery. :D
Well, the timber sale that was going to finally provide some relief wasn't happening, I'd washed out of yet another job that I only made it 4 days at, and my body was shutting down. Anthony Bourdain wasn't able to beat his demons and last Spring I'd almost gotten whooped too. Brooks owed me some money that I was in dire need of to pay bills and I shut his posting off to force his hand to finally write the check. Sure, it wasn't the best use of my position as admin, but it was the only card I had to play and a slap in the face of him spending hours posting on "my" site and not taking care of fulfilling our agreement. When he did finally pay, I was left with a moral dilemma: do I suffer the wrath of betraying my position, or just pull the plug and walk away. No one stepped up to take over, so I hit "delete". As we all know, Lee started another site about a week later and I vanished off the face of the map for the most part.
This past year was pretty rough. I had no appetite, no motivation to do anything really. I was getting dressed just because I didn't want my step-son to come home and see his father-figure (his bio-dad died of cancer when he was 4) mostly naked late-afternoon, but it wasn't because I was "up and ready to face the world". Shit, I rarely left the couch.
After a medical exam for increasing my disability rating, the examiner realized I was barely holding together and said something that finally pushed me to seek help. I started counseling, some anti-depressant meds, and did a lot of soul searching to try to find peace within myself. By late July, I was in group therapy once a week, individual counseling weekly outside of group, and was dealing with some of my physical pain issues more intensively - my life was doctor's appointments.
The Mrs. and kiddo were out of town, I was tired of waking up to go to the doc's and coming home to wait out the rest of the day to repeat the process in the morning, and decided I was going to stop at the Humane Society on my way home instead. My day was already shit, so maybe I could make some animals day's better and it might cheer me up in the process. I'd found myself playing with everyone's service dogs at the VA (not always a good thing) and really wanted one of my own but The Mrs. had shot me down a couple years prior as she thought a dog would just mean more work for her. I went to the Coon Rapids location, played with some cats (we already had 3), and then took a pit mix out to their little pen and played with him for about 30 minutes. That was fun, but Kobe wasn't a good fit for me and I went home. The next day, after being on the East side of town for group, I decided I'd never been to the Woodbury location and went there to do the same thing. I played with the cats, then went to the kennels to see who was hanging out. First kennel had a Blackmouth Cur puppy who immediately started barking it's fool head off as soon as I opened the main door into the room. OH Hell NO! I'm too old for that nonsense! Then there were a couple Springers, and we had a Springer growing up. Toffee was a good dog, but we never hunted her since my dad was from Chicago and has never been hunting in his life (I had to seek out and learn all my redneck ways on my own), and I didn't want another one. Nothing against them, but I figured a hound breed would be more my style (and I was right!). The last stall on the first block of kennels had Vinnie in it. He was chilling and happy to see me, would take treats from my hand without nipping fingers, and had an obvious eye injury to his right eye but there were some other medical condition stickers on his chart I didn't recognize. So I asked a girl who was filling food bowls what they meant and she didn't know either, and went off to find someone who did. While I was waiting for her return, I'd started looking up Blackmouth Cur's (BMC) on my phone and then another lady showed up with a clipboard and a leash. Vinnie was obviously happy to see her, and it turned out this was his bathroom break time. I asked if she was going to walk Vinnie, and she said yes. Then I asked if I could walk him instead? "Are you interested in Vinnie?" I don't know, but I'd like to walk him if that's ok? "He's got exercise restrictions from his heartworm treatment, so you can't run him or anything." That's ok, my knees are shot - neither one of us is running today! "Meet me over by the door and I'll let you take him from there."
Little did I know, that was God's plan for suckering me into phase 2 of recovery. :D